Honestly, when we decided to go with a goofy name during pregnancy it was so that what ever name we chose, everyone would say “Well, thank goodness it isn’t as strange as . . . “. If she had been a boy, her fetal name would have been Polycarp. Either way it’s better than someone we just found out about who referred to her baby as “Cletus the Fetus” for her entire pregnancy.
But there are a few things we didn’t stop to consider:
1. In Canada, most people don’t find out the gender of the their babies. This is very often not even by choice, as a lot of doctors just won’t tell you. Don’t ask me why, ask a Canadian doctor. I have no answer for you.
2. In Canada, baby showers are traditionally held after the baby is born. This is done for a great many reasons, but point 1 factors into it – a pre-birth shower without a specified gender results in a lot of green onesies and no cute dresses or firetruck pajamas.
3. I don’t live in Canada anymore.
So, I’m about to have a shower – on Saturday – before the baby is born. Four people have e-mailed me asking me for the name of the baby so they can have a shower gift monogrammed. It is such an awesome idea, and beautiful way to make the gift a keepsake that she’ll one day remove from a chest and know it was all hers. I love that people are thinking of my daughter personally, and want to personalize the gift for a little person they haven’t met yet. I feel like such a weirdo telling people I love the idea, but could they wait until the baby is born.
First, it sounds like I’m angling for two presents (bring a present to the shower and then another one when she’s born) which I’m certainly NOT doing.
Secondly, I feel like I’m putting everyone out.
So here’s what I’ve suggested, and I’d love to hear from those of you who aren’t coming to the shower if you think I’m being rude.
I’ve suggested that if they really want to have something personalized, they could take a picture of the item, and bring that to the shower. It will be passed around the circle, as shower gifts are, and oohed and awed over, as shower gifts are. Once the baby is born, during those few days or so in between the enamored announcement, and the ability to sit straight on a chair and receive company, they could get the gift personalized, and then they could bring the gift, at the same time as they come to meet the little person for whom it was purchased. Two visits, one purchase. Am I being unreasonable, or unfair?
I ask this for me. Everyone has been VERY understanding, and sweet. No one has indicated anything other than a desire to provide a beautiful personalized gift for me daughter that doesn’t bear the word “Pomegranate” – for which I am sure she will be grateful in twelve to fourteen years. But I would love to know what you think.
Also, having been absent for a time, I’d like to know if anyone’s still hanging around to read my ramblings 🙂